<h1 style="text-align: center;">Naysayers About The Dating Game Be Damned</h1>
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<p>Following a few blips on the radar of anti-game rhetoric I’ve been reading and hearing lately, I felt it my due diligence to finally express the truth of the matter, both to guys who want to learn game, and guys who have either tried it and it didn’t work, or some that tried certain techniques that didn’t suit them like Frost, or straight up deniers of game. This of course kind of fits in to a follow up of <a href="https://blog.loveawake.com/2019/08/13/the-best-u-s-cities-for-dating-and-why/">the best U.S. cities for dating and why</a> which is a good read. It’s a follow up on that post, because there’s a lot of confusion out there on the old Mystery Method, Game, and how everything is applied and to who it works for and how successful it really is. I’ve already been in a fun online back and forth with Assanova with the argument that the dating game works or is necessary, we being on similar pages but misunderstanding each other, which of course is the issue I’m dealing with today. Here is a comment from a reader at Frost’s site that says pretty accurately what all game haters and deniers say, albeit with a lot less hate language than most (read Frost’s posts and entire comments for more on this):</p>
<p><strong>Greg said:</strong></p>
<p>LOL, you are getting pretty desperate here, dude. The obvious conclusions is that game does not work, not that it just does not work for handsome guys.</p>
<p>You are deliberately suppressing your logical brain here. Maybe this is a stage you have to go through before you give up the dating game. *Oh wait, something is wrong here, this does not work, wait, it cant possibly be that GAME is bullshit, its gotta be some little quirk we can tweak*. lol</p>
<p>You have also completely misunderstood the purpose of *going in under the radar*. The purpose is that showing too much interest in the chic right away lowers your value, which is supposedly just not attractive to women. It should not matter if a good looking guy does this, it should simply make him more attractive.</p>
<p>The truth is, going in under the radar, *indirect game*, does not work for anyone, because it is essentially wimpy and pathetic, and born from a weak state of mind, like nearly all game tactics. You are talking to a girl in a bar and you dont even have the balls to be direct and upfront about your intentions! Very alpha indeed.</p>
<p>The ugly guy probably wont get very far regardless, but what little chance he has would be infinitely augmented by going in direct and unapologetic.</p>
<p>Lol, this was a funny post.</p>
<p>It’s hard to argue. I mean I simply can’t fathom why Greg failed at game. The fact of the matter is that game does work, but you need to understand what game is first. Everyone reading and learning game needs to learn this:</p>
<h2>Everyone runs game</h2>
<p>Everyone runs game. All the time.</p>
<p>Whether you’re a man or a woman, beta or alpha, consciously or unconsciously; you are running the dating game. If you cannot accept this fact, then you need to jump over to Jezebel.com and have some fun with the gals. Now if you’re still with me, the game you are running might be just bad game, and more importantly bad game for you. I see the future of game to start being splintered off into different categories of men, guys who are terrible with women, guys who are good looking/bad looking, guys who want to be a cad and have a support group, etc. There is no one standard of game. The basics as I have pointed out here, are game, and charisma. A comment that just hit as I was reading this illustrates both my points.</p>
<p><strong>Aleknovy said:</strong></p>
<p>Good stuff.</p>
<p>The part that saddens me is that you called it “game”. If people have these 3, then they don’t need “game”.</p>
<p>To put it differently:</p>
<ul>
<li>If you’re confident</li>
<li>Indifferent to pussy</li>
<li>Detached from outcome</li>
</ul>
<p>You’re already getting more pussy than it’s possible to get. So why overcomplicate it with “game” bullshit?</p>
<p>That is the dating game. Are any of you suggesting that doesn’t work?</p>
<h2>The Mystery Method and you</h2>
<p>Arguments abound on the validity of the mystery method and the derivatives off of it, and the routines inside’s effectiveness. Some men go to classes and learn routines and basic concepts behind them, even a bit of theory and go out after the lecture with the ‘proven’ teacher and bombard a bar with their students, who clumsily try and pick up women with this new power, it’s kind of like throwing Luke at Vader before he was ready, the dude got his hand chopped off! If that is your experience with game, it’s probably gonna leave a bad taste in your mouth.</p>
<p>Mystery’s routines, and I have never fully read them or endorsed them, but I know enough about them and the theory behind it to understand it, is to try and teach social pariahs how to have charisma. Try explaining to someone what charisma is, that doesn’t have it. Try coaching some of your friends that doesn’t have charisma on how to get charisma. It’s not easy, and yes there are naturals, but there are also people who want to learn charisma and can, although it’s better to learn from a charismatic friend, then from a guy wearing a fuzzy hat, but some people just don’t roll with charismatic guys.</p>
<p>If you are going out, you’re good looking, and get women, why the hell are you even reading game blogs in the first place. Maybe it’s to pick up tricks from the more advanced game posts, and theory, fair enough, we all understand that complacency is equal to death, so that’s good. But really, if you’re good with women already, you already are running good game, you’re only gonna come off awkward like Frost did in his post, or Assanova suggests. But you are still running game. It’s just game that fits with you, and your persona/status/looks. You should enhance, not reconstruct. Check out <a href="https://www.loveawake.com/free-online-dating/United-States/California/city-of-Los-Angeles.html">Los Angeles dating insights</a> for a real-world view of how game plays out in a major city.</p>
<p>Game is so much more than running routines, look at Roosh and his books, (buy Day Bang btw.) and you will see the plethora of information and different techniques you can use, if you don’t already know how to pick up and seduce women. Again, if you’re banging 9′s and 10′s all the time, those books probably aren’t for you, but that’s not the audience. That being said, every player that is good with women, always wants to be better, and with out Day Bang’s and Bang’s and blogs, it usually comes from your guy friends tips and tricks – it’s really no different – when a guy friend tells you, you instantly know that how he pulled it off, probably won’t work for you. The big difference between a player, and a beta is, the player will think of a nuanced version that he can adjust to incorporate it into his repertoire, and the beta will just say ‘that won’t work for me.’ and forget it. For a deeper analysis, see <a href="https://blog.loveawake.com/2020/09/07/modern-biracial-dating-in-america/">modern biracial dating in America</a>.</p>
<p>For people for who say game doesn’t work for me, means to me they just don’t get it. They looked at a set of instructions like game was putting together an Ikea coffee table and went out and followed them verbatim and came off feeling and looking like a tool. Of course you did, you are reading game blogs in black and white. You got to add a little color in there. It’s strange that I can see game guru’s becoming cult leaders, because some guys just look at something and don’t put any of their own idea’s and thoughts into it. When you agree with something, don’t just jump in accept it, you gotta use your noggin guys.</p>
<p>Game is a lifestyle, it’s essentially about teaching men to become men. Mystery Methods strict rules on approaching is to get you out of the fear of approaching women, if you aren’t afraid to approach women, skip to the next stage of game. If you have the basic fundamentals you don’t really need to learn the basics of game, some people say, it’s not game it’s being a man, and I say, exactly. But it’s still game. It’s called life, and either you’re in the game, or your on the sidelines, but if you are the one on the sideline criticizing anyone that’s in the game, well you know where you can shove it. Expand your perspective with <a href="https://blog.loveawake.com/2018/03/21/top-10-cities-in-us-for-single-women/">Top U.S. cities for single women</a> and see how game applies nationwide, or explore how <a href="https://www.loveawake.com/free-online-dating/United-States/Florida/city-of-Miami.html">Miami dating patterns</a> differ from <a href="https://www.loveawake.com/free-online-dating/United-States/New-York/city-of-New-York.html">New York dynamics</a>.</p>